"You just aren't the pretty girl"

A few years ago, I asked a guy out who I really liked. It was after months of flirting and other more intimate things. It was really hard for me to work up the courage to do it, but I thought that for sure he liked me and would be more than delighted to say yes.

But he never responded. 

I knew he was busy with work so I just shrugged it off, until I found out that he had just recently started dating someone else.

A few months later, I asked him why her and not me?

His response was something I will never forget: "You're a great girl and we have chemistry, but you just aren't the pretty girl I want to be with."

That diminished all my self esteem for a long time.

It wasn't until recently that I had an epiphany: if he was willing to overlook the chemistry and date someone based on looks, it goes to show how little he thought of himself, not me.

I am currently in a relationship, and it is beyond great to know that someone loves me despite my looks. I do sometimes think about the other guy when I feel bad about myself, but I try to stay positive and remember all the good I have in my life.